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Tuesday, August 18, 2009
"INSTEAD OF YOU TRY TO CLIMB THE CORPORATE LADDER, WHY NOT YOU BUILD YOUR OWN CORPORATE LADDER AND LET OTHERS STRUGGLE TO CLIMB IT"
those words always inspired me to be somebody and try to set up my own business..
you spend like so many years in university, do you want to end up working for others??
end up climbing the corporate ladder that was build by someone?
dont you get jealous of that someone?
if he/she can do it,than there's no reason i cant do it..
i know how to boast myself to study for the mid term test..
maybe i can do blog hopping AGAIN but this time focus only on the young and successful entrepreneur or surf the net for something that can ignite myself..
30 minutes break and then back to study again..
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
During one of seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage! , you wi ll notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage..
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find". You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.
"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice"
Saturday, August 1, 2009
I like it, thats why i want to share it with others too :)
"love is the most stupid thing on earth, love exists to remind us of our weak condition, love is outrageous, love has no reason, has no motifs, love is blind, bitter and armful. Love is a serial killer. love, that has killed so many hearts, should be arrested and placed in a prison"
Friday, July 31, 2009
the secret of life that i get from the book.
The 1st secret is to love your kin.
our prophet once said:
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should maintain good relation with his kindred"
Who are the people that can be refer as kin?
Based on Zabrina Zubir, the author of the book entitle 'life is an open secret', kin are the ones whom we called family and relatives, and the list are long,very long as it consist of grandparents, parent,brother,sister,children,grandparents' siblings,grandchildren,great great grandparents,uncles and aunties and their children and their families and the list keep growing..
See how many kins we have in this world??
We're not alone in this world!!!
Here a short story share by their author in this secret no 1, the story was called 'the story of 2 brothers'.
"david received an automobile from his brother as his birthday present. One day when david came out from his office, he saw a young boy admiring his new car. the boy asked him whether that was his car, proudly David replied the car was given by his brother as birthday present. the boy then replied,
"You were lucky, I wish i could be a brother like that".
See, instead of saying i wish i had a brother like that the boy said how he wish he can be a brother like that!!
If it were me, i will without doubt said i wish to have a brother like that.
This story makes me think,how i have been treating my kin so far.
Have i become like david's brother?Do i treat my kin nicely?When did the last time i visit them?When did the last time i called my siblings and my parents?When did the last time i had dinner together with them?
Let us think together, how we behave towards our kin.
The No1 secret of life, LOVE YOUR KIN!!!